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Marriage Preparation

Would you build a new house without a blueprint? Would you move to a new city without planning logistics?

If you have answered no to any of the above questions, then why would you say “I do” without first doing proper due diligence before you tie the knot?

Marriage is a journey with lots of twists and turns, ups and downs; lows and highs, filled with joys and pains, excitements, and disappointments and so on and so forth.

H Norman Write has observed that, majority of us learnt about marriage when we were growing up by observing the adults around us. The more important the adult, the more he or she taught us. So, most people learnt how to “be married” from their parents or primary caregivers or significant others.

If your parents’ marriage was good, you are likely to have learnt healthy ways of being together. If one or both you experienced your parents’ marriage as less than ideal or perhaps even destructive or toxic, then you will tend to repeat those patterns unless you consciously learn to practice new ways of being together. Many people swear they will never be like their parents and yet, despite their best intentions, often find themselves acting in those same ways. This is one reason why you need to attend the pre-nuptial preparation sessions to help you expand your thinking about marriage and develop new and better ways of being together.

Why do you need to undertake pre-marital lessons?

They are perfect for multicultural couples, couples who are seeking to wrestle and take charge of their romantic life and its associated ceremonies, for nonbelievers and non-churchgoers who are looking for meaningful Rites of Passage, especially in relation to wedding. To put it another way, they are perfect for people from differing backgrounds and traditions who want a ceremony that reflects not only their background, but their personalities, their relationship, their shared values and vision for the future.

We’re passionate about working with you to craft a wedding ceremony that reflects your needs, beliefs, culture, tradition and values of you the couple. Our ceremonies are as unique as the couples are because never has there been a wedding like yours.

What would you gain by attending these pre-marital instructions?

These sessions have been put together to help you deepen your knowledge and understanding of marriage, explore or examine your relationship in detail and will help:

  • Prepare for the institution of marriage by creating an environment in which they can thoughtfully and systematically consider their values and expectations as they plan to embark on life together.
  • Help would be couples to deepen their relationship by exploring the challenges of their life together.
  • Provide new insight into your partner and how the two of you relate to one another.
  • Establish your wants and needs as individuals and as a couple before your marriage begins.
  • Lay the groundwork for open and honest conversation for a stronger, healthier marriage.
  • Engage you in activities that lead to thought-provoking discussions that address your past experiences, and current expectations.
  • Help you plan for your future and build a lasting relationship with the one you love.
  • It will help you to understand where you are in terms of your attitude and marriage expectations.
  • It will help you to identify some of the potential problems and sort them out. It is much easier to deal with certain relationship issues prior to the marriage.
  • It will also help you to get to know your partner better than you do now.
  • Think through your personal and marriage or relationship goals and the impact they may have on your life and your marriage.

Marriage, for Judaeo-Christian’s was instituted by the creator God. It is how the creator God wanted to ensure the continuity and the propagation of humans. It is between a man a woman. It is a noble vocation and those who do so have chosen the noblest way of conjugal love.

Yahweh God said, “it is not good for man to be alone; I will give him a helper who will be like him…. So, man gave names to all the cattle,

the birds of the air and to every east of the field. But he did not find among them a helper like himself. Then Yahweh God caused a deep sleep to come over man and he fell asleep. He took one of his ribs and filled its place with flesh. The rib which Yahweh God had taken from man he formed into a woman and brought her to the man. The man then said, “Now this is bone and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken from man. That is why man leaves his father and mother and is attached to his wife, and with her becomes one flesh (Genesis 2:18-24)

Nevertheless, despite the nobility of marriage, divorce continues to skyrocket. Why marriages have become so fragile is not clear to anyone. We believe that far too many people spend a lot of time and money preparing for the wedding ceremony, with little or no preparation for the marriage itself. You never embark on any journey without pre-planning so why should you enter a life-long commitment without serious preparation. Would you travel abroad for vacation without first considering the logistics e.g., the accommodation, transportation, personal effects, etc nor would you build a house without the necessary planning. So, why should you embark on a life-changing journey without a serious thought and preparation.

The marriage journey is more important than any vacation journey you would embark on. Marriage is a serious commitment and a major transition which changes you and a lot of things about you and should therefore be entered into with clear understanding of what it is you are taken upon yourself. Therefore, we designed this programme to help you prepare for your marriage journey.

Although, many of the principles discussed in this programme are based on Judeo-Christian world view, non-Christians will benefit immensely, because they are founded on the eternal Word of God by which the whole universe is held together. Like the earthly journey, marriage journey starts with the wedding ceremony-new birth in the life of two people that brings about a dramatic transition in their lives so that they are no longer two but one.

Never say “I Do” or tie the knot without first going through this programme. Do not marry without it. You will do yourself and that of your partner a great service. It is worth putting off the wedding ceremony until you have undertaking this programme. Contact us today.